We often think the only way to create happiness
is to try to control the outer circumstances of our lives,
 to try to fix what seems wrong or
to get rid of everything that bothers us.

 But the real problem lies in
our reaction to those circumstances.

 What we have to change is the mind
and the way it experiences reality.

- Chagdud Tulku Rinpoche -

Anderen iets verwijten 

verzwakt jezelf.

My friend

 

 is he

 

 who tells me my faults

 

 in private.

Liefde is verbondenheid

zonder oordeel.

De verbindende ruimte 

tussen twee mensen 

die niets te maken heeft 

met nodig hebben. 

- E. Tolle - 

 

The minute that you're not learning

 I believe you're dead.

- Jack Nicholson -

 NITCH

Een mens zou zich veel vroeger moeten realiseren waar het allemaal te laat voor is.   Kees van Kooten   - Omdenken.nl -

Stilte is essentieel.
We hebben stilte nodig,
net zoals we lucht nodig hebben
en een plant licht nodig heeft.
Met een geest propvol woorden
en gedachten,
is er geen ruimte voor onszelf.


- Thich Nhat Hanh -

Working hard

 for something we don’t care about

 is called stress; 

 

working hard

 for something we love

 is called passion. 

 

- Simon Sinek - 

 

 

 

Foggy bridge | by Evgen Andruschenko

Do you ever know what the birds are singing? 

 

You don’t.

 

 But you listen to them anyway. 

 

So, 

 

sometimes with art,

 

 it is important just to look.

 

 

- Pablo Picasso -

I think the most important quality in a birdwatcher
is a willingness to stand quietly and see what comes.
Our everyday lives obscure a truth about existence -
that at the heart of everything

 there lies a stillness and a light. 

- Lynn Thomson -

Absence, 

the highest form

 of presence.


- James Joyce, A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man -

We know how to sacrifice ten years for a diploma, and we are willing to work very hard to get a job, a car, a house, and so on. 

 

But we have difficulty remembering that we are alive in the present moment, the only moment there is for us to be alive. 

 

- Thich Nhat Hanh -

Never argue with an idiot.

 

 Someone watching may not be able

 

 to tell the difference. 

 

- Mark Twain -

Storms 

 

make trees

 

 take deeper roots. 

Breathe, but with total awareness of the act. Conscious breathing is one of the simplest meditations that can be used to bring us into the present moment; it can be used to alleviate feelings of anxiety, or to bring oneself out of depression. In the present moment, with only awareness of one’s breathing - deep breaths or shallow breaths, it matters not, so long as we are totally aware of each one - there is no past, no future: no depression, no anxiety. 

Try it. Breathe.

- Dave J Watson -

Imagine you are walking in the woods and you see a small dog sitting by a tree. As you approach it, it suddenly lunges at you, teeth bared. You are frightened and angry. But then you notice that one of its legs is caught in a trap. Immediately your mood shifts from anger to concern: You see that the dog’s aggression is coming from a place of vulnerability and pain.

This applies to all of us. When we behave in hurtful ways, it is because we are caught in some kind of trap. The more we look through the eyes of wisdom at ourselves and one another, the more we cultivate a compassionate heart.

-Tara Brach -

Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. 

The highest form of knowledge… is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.”

- Bill Bullard -

 

 

The most revolutionary ideas

are not sellable...

only mind-changing.

 

- Marina Abramovic -

 

 NITCH

Gevoelens zijn tijdelijk.

Geen enkel gevoel


 is eeuwigdurend.

Desires, imaginations, thoughts, dreams ...

 Simply become a witness.

Willem Vermandere - Onderweg

Lijden ontstaat door het conflict
tussen je ideeën over
hoe de werkelijkheid zou moeten zijn,
en hoe de werkelijkheid feitelijk is.
 
- Erik van Zuydam -

www.inzicht-nu.nl 

and I was happy, 

 watching it happen

 without it happening to me.

- Marie Howe -

Learning to let go

 should be learned

 before learning to get.

 

 Life should be touched,

 not strangled.

 

- Ray Bradbury -

De problemen 

 

die je denkt te hebben met mij 

zijn problemen

 

 die je hebt met jezelf. 

Het is moeilijk luisteren 

naar iemand die niet spreekt.

Wat gaat er WEL goed? 

I think and think and think. 

 

I’ve thought myself out of happiness one million times,

 

 but never once into it.

 

-  Jonathan Safran Foer -

Die huis  

 

Sabine Hagedoren

 

 https://www.vrt.be/vrtnu/a-z/die-huis/3/die-huis-s3a1/?HKEY=EB806D487B9BA4E4F69282778B427E04&utm_source=Selligent&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=VRTNU_NWSB_DIE+HUIS+AFL2&utm_content=VRTNU_NWSB_DIE+HUIS+AFL2&utm_term=116

Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day

is the rest we take between two deep breaths.

- Etty Hillesum -

Imagine craving absolutely nothing from the world. Imagine cutting the invisible strings that so painfully bind us: what would that be like?

Imagine the freedoms that come from the ability to enjoy things without having to acquire them, own them, possess them.

Try to envision a relationship based on acceptance and genuine care rather than expectation.

Imagine feeling completely satisfied and content with your life just as it is. Who wouldn’t want this?

This is the enjoyment of non-attachment.

- Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche-

 

 

 

Can you go to that place

that is beyond should

and shouldn’t?

- Adyashanti-

There is no hope unmingled with fear, 

 

and no fear unmingled with hope. 

 

- Spinoza - 

 

 

 

Just about 99% of everything you believe

 is a lie. 

 

That’s a heavy one,

 but it’s true.

 

- Robert Adams -

Probeer jezelf en de ander weer te zien als evenwaardig,
 verbonden en onderdeel van elkaar
in plaats van kritiek op elkaar te geven.

Zoveel mensen proberen zich beter te voelen of meer waard
 door de ander de grond in te boren.


- Onbekend -

Arme ik 

De idee van afgescheiden te zijn van anderen en altijd alles zelf te moeten dragen. 

Moeten ontploffen als je eens voor jezelf wilt opkomen eerder dan gewoon te vertrouwen op je eigen kracht en neen te zeggen.

- Onbekend -

 

Je leert lopen, je leert staan. 

 

Maar niemand anders kan je leren

 

 om als jezelf

 

 door het leven te gaan.

 

 

 

I've survived 

all the difficult moments 

 

of my past. 

 

 

 

BEHANDEL ANDEREN 

ZOALS JE ZELF BEHANDELD 

ZOU WILLEN WORDEN.

Je moet veel minder

 

 dan je denkt. 

 

 

 

Vertrouwen 

is niet alles 

te hoeven weten.

People waste their lives holding back, 

whispering what should be shouted.

Be careful.

 

 The moment you start talking you create a verbal universe, a universe of words, ideas, concepts and abstractions, interwoven and inter-dependent, most wonderfully generating, supporting and explaining each other and yet all without essence or substance, mere creations of the mind. 

 

Words create words, reality is silent.

- Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj-

 

 

 

All the best rebels...

had some sense of hope in them.

-  Tom Petty -

NITCH

 

Don’t ever save anything for a special occasion.

Being alive is the special occasion.

- Author Unknown -

The problem is not them …..

As long as we are lost in life we will blame the world for our pain, and so the conditions for this pain never end.

We cannot change them, but we can change ourselves.

We can open our heart and no longer be a victim to the fears that we carry.

- ​Michael Kewley -


 

R.I.P. TOM PETTY

Wij zullen moeten kiezen:

 de waarheid of de schijn. 

Je kunt jezelf verliezen

 door nooit jezelf te zijn.

 

- Toon Hermans -

 

www.dagelijksegedachte.net 

 

 

Do, or do not. But you will never be ready. Nobody is ever ready. You’ll wait forever to be ready. Readiness is a lie.

Just begin, today, even though you don’t know how.
You may not be ready, but you are ready to try, to fail, to give yourself to the maelstrom.

 

- Jeff Foster -

No matter how careful you are, there’s going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn’t experience it all. There’s that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should’ve been paying attention. Well, get used to that feeling. That’s how your whole life will feel some day. This is all practice. 

 

- Chuck Palahniuk -