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In plaats van :

 WAAROM IK?

 

WAT KAN IK HIERVAN LEREN?

 

 

 

 

You can't open up the story of my life

  and just fucking go to page 738

  and think you know me

- Arin Hanson -

 

 

Most of the Time

 

 Bob Dylan, Photo by Richard Avedon, 1963

 

 

Your impact on other people is bigger than you think. 

Someone still giggles when they think of that funny thing you said.

 Someone still smiles when they think of the compliment you gave them.

 Someone silently admires you. 

The advice you give has made a difference for people.

 The support and love you’ve offered others has made someone’s day.

 Your input and opinions have made someone think twice.

 You’re not insignificant and forgotten. 

Your existence makes a positive difference, whether you see it or not. 

 

 

 

 

IK HOEF NIETS TE BEWIJZEN

 

 

 

 

Death in life...that’s the only death. 

That’s the real death.

 Not this death when you depart the body, 

 but being dead while you’re alive. 

That’s real death, I think.

-   Henry Miller (& Anais Nin) -

 

 

 

 

Gastvrijheid 

maakt een klein huis 

GROOT 

- Altan van der Bent - 

 

 

 

And it’s amazing

how much noise

people ignoring each other

can make.

- Eoin Colfer -

 

𝗗𝗔𝗚𝗚𝗘𝗗𝗜𝗖𝗛𝗧 – 𝗣𝗶𝗲𝘁 𝗠𝗲𝗲𝘂𝘀𝗲 (𝟭𝟵𝟰𝟳) – 𝗪𝗮𝘀𝗴𝗼𝗲𝗱

𝗪𝗮𝘀𝗴𝗼𝗲𝗱

Die lange lijnen volgehangen met vochtig wasgoed – waar zijn ze gebleven? Sokken, onderbroeken, jurken, overhemden, lakens, theedoeken, slipjes, jeans, bh’s – bonte guirlandes, gespannen door de achtertuin of over de volle lengte van een balkon. Grillige slingers die geen feestdag afwachten om de bloemetjes buiten te zetten.

 
Als de wind een geheugen had – maar dat heeft hij niet – zou hij hun geleidelijke verdwijning betreuren en met weemoed terugdenken aan de dagen waarin ze alle achtertuintjes en balkonnetjes sierden met de ijzeren regelmaat die zo in tegenspraak was met de vrolijke anarchie van hun verschijning. ‘Dat droogt wel aan de mast!’ riepen de moeders in die dagen, als je soms iets aan moest dat niet helemaal droog was. Vervlogen wijsheid – opgeslokt door het nijdig gezoem van droogtrommels.

 
Wasgoed wist van wapperen en flapperen – flirten met de wind. Wanneer hij geen haast had en zomaar wat door de tuinen dwaalde, had hij er plezier in zich te verstoppen achter het traag bollende zeil van een laken, of met de mouw van een overhemd ongegeneerd het décolleté van een bont zomerjurkje te betasten. Maar hij herinnert zich niets, de wind – dat is zijn geluk.

(Uit: Weer en wind: 100 gedichten)

 

 

 

 

There is no such thing as possibility without uncertainty.

 So when you act in a way that removes the uncertainty,

 you also act in a way that removes possibility.

- Jonathan Fields -

 

 

 

 

 It’s just self-respect that you’re looking for in your work.

 You just keep on uncovering your own heart 

until you can find something 

 in which you can locate your self-respect.

- Leonard Cohen -

 

 

Ik hoop niets,

 ik vrees niets,

 dus ik ben vrij.

 

- Rudi Vranckx - 

 

 

 

 

Het bijzondere 

 zit in het alledaagse 

- Caroline Pauwels - 

 

 

 

 

DRUNKENNESS

IS 

TEMPORARY SUICIDE

 

- Bertrand Russel - 

 

 

 

Pura Lempuyang Door in Bali, Indonesia 

 

 

 

 

What you can’t control:

• What other people think

• What other people feel

• What other people say

• What other people do

What you can control:

• How you interpret what other people think/feel/say/do (with hostility, compassion, curiosity, understanding, judgment…)

• How you respond what other people think/feel/say/do

• What you communicate to other people (all you can ever give people is information)

What you can’t control:

• How people respond to the above

What you can control:

• How you respond to the above

Etc.

 

 

 

 

𝐙𝐢𝐞𝐤𝐞𝐧𝐛𝐞𝐳𝐨𝐞𝐤

Mijn vader had een lang uur zitten zwijgen bij mijn bed.

Toen hij zijn hoed had opgezet
zei ik, nou, dit gesprek
is makkelijk te resumeren.

Nee, zei hij, nee toch niet,
je moet het maar eens proberen.

- Judith Herzberg -

 

 

 

 The kids who need the most love

 will ask for it 

in the most unloving ways.

 

 

We assume

 others show love the same way we do —

 and if they don’t, 

we worry it’s not there.

- Unknown -

Iedereen    die je ooit zult ontmoeten    weet iets wat jij niet weet.   Bill Nye

Happy Ending - Joe Jackson

 

 It’s not my job to be likeable.

 It’s my job to be myself.

 The right people will gravitate. 

- Rashaun Will⠀-

 

 

 

 

Music seems to hold everything together.

It seems to make things not so chaotic sometimes.

It seems to make things make more sense sometimes.

- Tyler Joseph -

 

 

 

 Who we are speaks loudly 

so be who you are in every situation

to my face and behind my back.

- Barb Schmidt -

 

 

 

 

You don’t have a right to the cards 

you believe you should have been dealt. 

You have an obligation 

to play the hell out of the ones you’re holding.

- Cheryl Strayed -

 

Why me? 

That’s a very Earthling question to ask...why you?

 Why us for that matter? 

Why anything? 

Because this moment simply is.

 Have you ever seen bugs trapped in amber?

 Yes. 

Well here we are...trapped in the amber of this moment.

 There is no why.

-   Kurt Vonnegut -

NITCH

 

 

 

 

The greatest wealth 

is 

health 

 

 

 

 

 Context is everything. 

Your troubles may seem massive now,

 but in the context of your life as a whole, 

they are probably very small. 

 

 

 

 Ireland, West Coast, County Kerry, 1988 by Harry Gruyaert

 

 

 

 You can’t use up creativity. 

The more you use,

 the more you have.

- Maya Angelou - 

 

 

 

 

"Did you know,” the old woman said now, standing beside the grown-up Annie, “that a dog will go to a crying human before a smiling one? 

 

Dogs get sad when people around them get sad.

 

 They’re created that way.

 

 It’s called empathy.

 

Humans have it, too.

 

 But it gets blocked by other things—ego,

 

 self-pity, 

 

thinking your own pain must be tended to first. 

 

 Dogs don’t have those issues.

 

 

- The Next Person You Meet in Heaven - Mitch Albom -

 

 

 Stability was overrated

Crises and adventures, 

the other hand, 

actually teach you something.

- Sarah Allison Allen -

 

 

It takes as long

 as it takes.

 

 

 

 Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded.

 It's a relationship between equals. 

Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. 

Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.

– Pema Chödron -

 

 

Huil liever één keer je hart uit je lijf 

 dan voortdurend te lopen zuchten. 

- Chinees gezegde - 

 

LAY DOWN Melanie & The Edwin Hawkins Singers LIVE '70 (Candles In The Rain)

 

I wish I could say everything in one word.

I hate all the things that can happen

between the beginning of a sentence and the end.

- Leonard Cohen -

 

 Heureuse ou pas, on ne se défait pas de son enfance, on la porte en soi.

 Elle est là tapie dans l’ombre de tous nos gestes, dans les mots qu’on ne dit pas

Elle revient avec l’âge et nous balance ses nostalgies et ses petites révélations, elle fait un p'tit tour et puis revient...

- @foise Cosson -

 

 

In twijfel zit de intelligentie,    niet in zekerheid.

 

 

 Faith,

 it is said, 

is better than belief,

 because belief is when someone else

 does the thinking.

 

- Mitch Albom - The First Phone Call from Heaven -

 

 Dingle Peninsula, County Kerry, Ireland

 

Chi Coltrane Go Like Elijah

 

 Try to imagine a life without timekeeping.

 You probably can’t. 

You know the month, the year, the day of the week.

 There is a clock on your wall or the dashboard of your car. 

You have a schedule, a calendar, a time for dinner or a movie.

 Yet all around you, timekeeping is ignored.

Birds are not late.

 A dog does not check its watch. 

Deer do not fret over passing birthdays. 

Man, alone measures time. 

Man alone chimes the hour.

 And, because of this, man alone suffers a paralyzing fear that no other creature endures. 

A fear of time running out.

- Mitch Albom - The Time Keeper -

 

 

‘When a baby comes into the world, its hands are clenched, right? Like this?’

He made a fist.

‘Why? Because a baby, not knowing any better, wants to grab everything, to say, ‘The whole world is mine.’

‘But when an old person dies, how does he do so? With his hands open. Why? Because he has learned his lesson.’

What lesson? I asked.

 
He stretched open his empty fingers.

 
‘We can take nothing with us.'

 

- Mitch Albom - Have a Little Faith -

 

Your whole life is inside your mind

Your mind is the prism that refracts the entire universe. 

around you and within you comes from your mind.

- Frederick Lenz -

 

 

 

 

Wie een vriend zoekt zonder fouten,

blijft zonder vrienden. 

- Turks spreekwoord -

 

 

 Kash Harvest, India

Photograph by Biswajit Patra

 

 

Mondays don't suck. 

Your job doesn't suck. 

Your partner doesn't suck. 

negative mindset sucks

 Your lack of self-worth and self-love sucks.

- Jim Carrey -

 

 

 People will hurt you

 then act like you hurt them.

 

 

 

 

They simply never understand,
do they,
that sometimes solitude is
one of the most beautiful things
on earth?

- Charles Bukowski -

 

 

 Psychisch lijden speelt zich af in het denken. 

Het bestaat nergens anders.

Maar gedachten zijn niet werkelijk 

in staat om lijden te veroorzaken.

Het enige proleem is dat we ze voor waar houden

en er overmatig door gefascineerd zijn.

Als je aandacht niet is gericht op de concepten

en verhalen in het denken, dan zal je ervaring

een natuurlijke vrede en helderheid zijn.

 

- John Wheeler -

 

 

 

 Do you love me enough 

that I may be weak with you?

 Everyone loves strength, 

but do you love me for my weakness? 

That is the real test.

- Alain de Botton - 

 

 

 

Amsterdam - Netherlands (by Daryl DeHart)

 

 

 

Maybe forgiveness is just that. 

The ability to admit someone else’s story. 

To give it to them.

 To let it be enunciated in your presence.

 It’s your job not to flinch.

- Lidia Yuknavitch, The Chronology of Water -

 

 

 I hope that tomorrow,
I’ll be myself again,
Till then please forgive me,
For my lacking attention.
For my constant worry,
And my failing interest,
I know I’ll be okay,
I’m just needing some rest.
For my body’s heavy,
My soul even more so;
So try to forgive me,
For failing my auto mode.

 

 

 

 

 One day she said, “Don’t you think rain is something that happens inside of us?”

I didn’t understand, but I liked the thought.

“If it’s raining for enough people, we see rain,” she explained. “Otherwise it’s not raining.”

– Amanda Michalopoulou, from “Light,” I’d Like: Stories -