We’re afraid others will see our flaws, weaknesses and insecurities. 

We’re afraid if others really knew us, they would reject us. 

We feel like fakes and frauds in a world that seems to have it all together.

- Dave Earley -

Alle tijd nemen 

is hier de beste manier 

om geen seconde te verliezen 

- Nicolas Bouvier - 

That’s the trick, isn’t it? 

 

To find peace in our hearts

 

 even in those moments

 

 intended to topple us to our knees. 

 

To find strength 

 

within our hopelessness.

 

 

Walk gently in the lives of others.

Not all wounds are visible. 

Je kunt over de hele wereld reizen

 

 maar je kunt niet wegrennen 

 

van de persoon die je bent 

 

in je hart 

 

- Tiesto - 

Optimist: 

 

Someone who figures 

 

that taking a step backward

 

 after taking a step forward

 

 is not a disaster,

 

 it's a cha-cha.

 

- Robert Brault -

the goal is not 

to be liked 

the goal is 

to be real 

 

I assure you, I’m not put together at all.

 Nor am I broken. 

I am recovering - 

finding the beautiful in the ugly

 and stitching it into my life.

- Rachel Wolchin -

Ropey Pahoehoe by Bruce Omori

Iceland by Michael Schlegel

This is the real secret of life –

 

 to be completely engaged

 

 with what you are doing

 

 in the here and now. 

 

And instead of calling it work,

 

 realise it is play.

 

- Alan Watts -

Erik van Zuydam

De menselijke geest is verslaafd aan controle.  Zelfs het loslaten van controle wil hij onder controle krijgen.

When someone says something you don’t like, take a deep breath before speaking.

This also applies to writing since we have so many conversations via text message, email, Facebook messages and the like… and the idea is to give yourself time to notice how you’re feeling, how you’re reacting internally before you express it externally to the other person or people involved.

So often our initial reaction gets us in trouble, it causes the other person or people to also get defensive and react, and then the cycle whirls out of control.

You can stop this by taking a deep breath and considering your response, and what the other person might be trying to communicate.

- www.elephantjournal -

 

Achteraf

 

 met het weten van nu

 

 is het altijd makkelijk praten. 

 

- Geert Mak -

 

 

 

Being must be felt.

It can’t be thought.

- Eckhart Tolle -

When you do something noble

 

 and beautiful and nobody noticed,

 

 do not be sad. 

 

For the sun every morning is a beautiful spectacle 

 

and yet most of the audience still sleeps.

 

- John Lennon -

Dat moment 

 

Het moment waarop je van jezelf 

volledig jezelf mag zijn

zonder er aan te denken 

wat anderen daarover zullen vinden

 

 

Dat moment 

 

 

My age doesn't bother me ...

it's the side effects.

Johan Terryn was vorige week op stapvakantie. Een vakantie waarin je, goed geraden, veel wandelt. Maar natuurlijk wandel je ergens heen, een bestemming. Maar voor Johan viel zijn bestemming zo tegen dat hij moest denken aan een citaat van Conficius.

De weg zelf is de bestemming. 

Toen ik de 10 kilometer lange wandeling door de kloof terug liep, merkte ik welk geweldig landschap ik vooral de tweede helft van de tocht had gemist door mijn ongedurigheid.

Johan Terryn 

A soulmate does not complete you — 

 

they inspire you to complete yourself.

 

 A soulmate is the person who supports your direction, 

 

who motivates and encourages you to stretch,

 

 to change, 

 

to reinvent yourself until you are happy. 

 

A soulmate is someone who loves you with so much conviction,

 

 and so much heart, 

 

that it is nearly impossible to doubt

 

 just how capable you are of becoming 

 

exactly who you have always wanted to be. 

 

 

LEVEN 

berust op 

BEWEGING 

Do one thing at a time

 

 and give it your full attention.

 

 

If you feel anger or irritation, 

 

refrain from saying or doing anything straight away.

 

 Come back to your breathing

 

 and follow your in- and out-breath 

 

until you’ve calmed down.

 

- Thich Nhat Hanh - 

 

 

Soms gaan jaren voorbij

zonder dat we zelfs leven,

en dan plots zit ons hele leven geconcentreerd

in één enkel moment.

–Oscar Wilde-

When you're upset

write it down.

It will give you rest. 

Stop reacting in anger. 

We play the victim 

 

without realizing 

 

that we ourselves

 

 are the ones causing the drama 

 

and the pain around us.

 

 

OPEN YOUR MIND 

BEFORE YOU OPEN YOU MOUTH 

If you don't believe in yourself

i'll do it for you

until you can do it yourself 

If you feel uncomfortable, 

scared,

 resentful,

 sad, 

angry, 

or guilty, 

name it.

 

 

Boosheid heeft niets te maken

 

 met de persoon op wie je boos bent,

maar alles met het droom-‘ik’ 

dat op zichzelf gericht wil blijven.

Je maakt jezelf simpelweg wijs 

 dat het leven moet zijn zoals jij wilt.

Kun je de ruimte aanvoelen 

waarin deze boze gedachten

en gevoelens verschijnen?

Jij bent die ruimte, niet de boze energie.

- Scott Kiloby -

Sometimes we hurry through our daily tasks, looking forward to the time when we can stop and have a cup of tea.

 

 But when we’re finally sitting with the cup in our hands, our mind is still running off into the future, and we can’t enjoy what we’re doing; we lose the pleasure of drinking our tea. 

 

We need to keep our awareness alive and value each moment of our daily life. 

 

We may think our other tasks are less pleasant than drinking tea. 

 

But if we do them with awareness, we may find that they’re actually very enjoyable.

- Thich Nhat Hanh -

Practice the pause.

 When in doubt, pause.

 When angry, pause. 

When tired, pause.

 When stressed, pause.

- Unknown -

There is something wonderfully bold and liberating 

 

about saying yes 

 

to our entire imperfect and messy life.

 

-Tara Brach -

Het volume van uw stem 

verhoogt de waarde van uw argument niet.

There is something infinitely healing 

 

in the repeated refrains of nature – 

 

the assurance

 

 that dawn comes after night 

 

and spring after winter.

 

- Rachel Carson -

 

Give yourself the gift

 

 of living one hour at a time.

 

De zin van ons leven 

waar ligt die nu weer?

Sven (9):

Ik ben ook bang,

 

 maar ik durf gewoon!

Omdenken door kinderen via Brigitte van der Lusdonk

 

 

Menigeen dwaalt, 

uit vrees te dwalen. 

- G. Lessing - 

 

- Randy Pausch -

 

 

Millions of people never analyze themselves. 

 

Mentally they are mechanical products of the factory of their environment, preoccupied with breakfast, lunch, and dinner, working and sleeping, and going here and there to be entertained. 

 

They don’t know what or why they are seeking, nor why they never realize complete happiness and lasting satisfaction.

 

 By evading self-analysis, people go on being robots, conditioned by their environment. True self-analysis is the greatest art of progress.”

- Paramahansa Yogananda -

Het geheim van vooruitkomen 

is eraan beginnen. 

- Agatha Christy - 

Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry- all forms of fear- are caused by too much future and not enough presence.

 

 Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness and all forms of non forgiveness are caused by too much past and not enough presence. 

 

- Eckhart Tolle -