zaterdag 13 oktober 2018




In the midst of movement and chaos,
 
 keep stillness inside of you.
 
- Deepak Chopra -














I've lost my need 

to justify myself 

to others 









One kind of good book should leave you asking:

how did the author know that about me?

- Alain de Botton -












For every person you forgive, 

you heal a wound of your own.

- Phil Good -




© Jef Boes

Ik heb een burn-out gekregen

  omdat ik niet egoïstisch genoeg was.

-  Eva Daeleman -

 in De Morgen 

 






I work from awkwardness.
 
 By that I mean I don't like to arrange things.
 
 If I stand in front of something,
 
 instead of arranging it,
 
 I arrange myself.
 
-  Diane Arbus -
 
NITCH
 


vrijdag 12 oktober 2018






No one is coming to rescue you from yourself: 
 
your inner demons,
 
 your lack of confidence, 
 
your dissatifaction with yourself and your life.
 
 Only self-love and good decisions
 
 will rescue you.
 
 
 








Music that is sad, melancholic, and depressing
 
 is in a perverse way
 
 more uplifting.
 
 It’s because in a way
 
 you feel like you’re not alone.
 
- Steven Wilson -









Laat niemand me de rimpels van het voorhoofd wegnemen, die daar gekomen zijn door de verwondering over de schoonheid van het leven.
 
 Of die rond mijn mond, die laten zien hoeveel ik heb gelachen en hoeveel ik heb gekust.
 
 Ook niet de wallen onder mijn ogen, daarin zit de herinnering aan hoeveel ik heb gehuild.
 
 Ze zijn van mij en ze zijn mooi.
 
- Meryl Streep - 
 
 
 
 
 






Making love 
 
was never about you and me in a bed.
 
 We made love
 
 whenever we held hands.

- Iain Thomas -








There comes a time
 when the world gets quiet
 and the only thing left
 is your own heart.
 
 So you’d better learn the sound of it.
 
 Otherwise
 you’ll never understand
 what it’s saying. 

- Sarah Dessen -





Ernst Haas, Trafalgar Square Pigeons, London, 1949



To love a person
 
 is to see all of their magic,
 
 and to remind them of it
 
 when they have forgotten. 

- Unknown -




- Barb Schmidt -







You ARE not the voice in your mind.

You are the one who hears it. 









Je kunt bewustzijn niet ontwaken zonder pijn.
 
 Mensen zijn in staat om alles te doen, hoe absurd het ook lijkt, om hun eigen ziel te vermijden.
 
 Niemand wordt verlicht door het voorstellen van figuren van licht, maar door zichzelf bewust te maken van het donker.
 
 -Carl Gustav Jung-








Zelfkennis is niet gebaseerd op een formule.
 Iemand kan naar een psycholoog gaan om zichzelf te leren kennen, maar dat is geen zelfkennis; zelfkennis ontstaat als we onszelf realiseren binnen de relatie, die laat zien wat we altijd zijn.

 -Krishnamurti-










Go–not knowing where;
 
 bring–not knowing what;
 
 the path is long, the way unknown;
 
 the hero knows not how to arrive there by himself (or herself).
 
- Russian Fairytale, quoted in Search, edited by Jean Sulzberger -









There is no ideal in observation.
When you have an ideal,
you cease to observe,
you are then merely
approximating the
present to the idea,
and therefore there
is duality, conflict,
and all the rest of it.
The mind has to be in the
state when it can see, observe.
The experience of the observation
is really an astonishing state.
In that there is no duality.
The mind is simply—aware.

- Jiddu Krishnamurti -







That's the other thing about life.
 
 It’s full of surprises.
 
 
 






The Shore 
 
 I go down to the shore in the morning
and depending on the hour
the waves are rolling in or moving out,
and I say, oh, I am miserable, what shall—
what should I do?
And the sea says in its lovely voice:
Excuse me, I have work to do.

- Mary Oliver -


 






If you keep your feathers well oiled 
 
the water of criticism
 
 will run off
 
 as from a duck's back.
 
- Ellen Swallow Richards -









No one saves us but ourselves. 

We alone must walk the path.

- Buddha -









Emoties 

zijn niet het werkelijke probleem.

Het is de onwil om ze te voelen. 

- Erik van Zuydam - 


Fragile - Sting & Stevie Wonder




The only reason we don’t open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don’t feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. 
 
To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else’s eye.
 
 
- Pema Chödrön -









The feelings that hurt most,
 the emotions that sting most, 
are those that are absurd; 
longing for impossible things, 
 precisely because they are impossible;
 nostalgia for what never was;
 the desire for what could have been; 
regret over not being someone else;
 dissatisfaction with the world’s existence.
 
 All these half-tones of the soul’s consciousness
 create in us a painful landscape,
 an eternal sunset of what we are.
 
- Fernando Pessoa, The Book of Disquiet -










We fall in love
 when our imagination
 projects nonexistent perfection
 upon another person.
 
 One day,
 the fantasy evaporates
 and with it,
 love dies.
 
- Jose Ortega y Gasset -








JA MAAR 

WIE BEN IK 
 
OM AAN MEZELF TE TWIJFELEN?
 
- Loesje - 
 
 
 






To love purely is to consent to distance,
 
 it is to adore the distance
 
 between ourselves and that which we love.
 
- Simone Weil, Gravity and Grace -





 Here’s my “what I know for sure” life advice:

We’re not meant to have it all together then walk our path effortlessly. Life is unpredictable, stressful, and hard. But even though it’s difficult we can begin to know what we want, make a plan, and begin by taking teeny tiny steps to get there.
Fall, get back up, dust yourself off and walk again. This is on repeat your whole life my loves.
You do your best, love and trust yourself completely, do no harm to others, lend a helping hand along the way, and above all don’t take yourself too seriously, laugh often and have infinite patience.

Barb Schmidt 











LEREN LOSLATEN 
 
Op een dag leer je het subtiele verschil kennen tussen een hand vasthouden en een ziel ketenen.
 
 Dan leer je dat liefde niet betekent: leunen, en dat gezelschap niet betekent: veiligheid. 
 
Je ontdekt dat een kus geen contract is en een cadeau geen belofte.
 
 Je begint je nederlagen te accepteren met je hoofd omhoog en je ogen open.
 
 Je leert vertrouwen op vandaag omdat morgen te onzeker is voor plannen.
 
 Na een poos leer je dat zelfs zonneschijn je verbrandt als je er te veel van krijgt.
 
 Dan wordt het tijd je eigen tijd te beplanten en dan zorg je voor je eigen ziel en wacht je niet langer op een wonder van buitenaf.
 
 En dan weet je echt, dat je het echt kunt volhouden en dat je echt sterk bent en dat je echt waarde hebt.
 
 En je leert en leert. 
 
Bij ieder afscheid leer je. 
 
- Voltaire (1694-1778 filosoof) -









the darkness
 declares the glory of light.


- T. S. Eliot -

Joe Cocker - N'oubliez Jamais




Never forget how far you’ve come. 
 
Everything you have gotten through. 
 
All the times you have pushed on even when you felt you couldn’t. 
 
All the mornings you got out of bed no matter how hard it was. 
 
All the times you wanted to give up but you got through another day. 
 
Never forget how much strength you have learned and developed along the way.
 
 
 






Your struggles develop your strengths.
 
 When you go through hardships
 
and decide not to surrender,
 
 that is strength.
Mahatma Gandhi 








I won't let anyone 

make me feel 

like i'm unlovable. 









You will have bad times
 
 but they will always wake you up
 
 to the stuff 
 
you weren’t paying attention to.

- Robin Williams -









Fall if you will,
 
 but rise you must. 
 
- James Joyce -








Gratefulness for what is there is one of the most powerful tools for creating what is not yet there. 

What does gratefulness mean?

 It means you appreciate what is. 

You value, you give attention to, you honour whatever is here at this moment.

- Eckhart Tolle-
 
 
 






Sometimes 
 
we can’t find the thing that will make us happy, 
 
because we can’t let go
 
 of the thing that was supposed to.
 
 - Robert Brault -




donderdag 11 oktober 2018



Out of perfection nothing can be made.
 
 Every process involves breaking something up.
 
 The earth must be broken to bring forth life. 
 
If the seed does not die there is no plant.
 
 Bread results from the death of wheat.
 
 Life lives on lives. 
 
Our own life lives on the act of other people. 
 
If you are lifeworthy, you can take it.
 
- Joseph Campbell -











the mind replays
 
what the heart 
 
can't delete
 
 
 







I sometimes wondered what the use of any of the arts was. 
 
The best thing I could come up with was what I call the 'canary in the coal mine theory'... 
 
This theory says that artists are useful to society because they are so sensitive. 
 
They are super-sensitive. 
 
They keel over like canaries in poison coal mines long before more robust types realize that there is any danger whatsoever.
 
- Kurt Vonnegut -
 
NITCH
 


Tenzin Palmo Jetsunma - The difference between Genuine Love and Attachment






People try to get away from it all —
 to the country, to the beach, to the mountains.
 
 You always wish that you could too. 
 
Which is idiotic: you can get away from it anytime you like.
 
 By going within. 
 
 Nowhere you can go is more peaceful 
 
— more free of interruptions —
 
 than your own soul. 
 
Especially if you have other things to rely on. 
 
An instant’s recollection and there it is: complete tranquility. 
 
 
 
 
 






Yes,
 
 inner voice,
 
 you may talk,
 
 that is your purpose,
 
 but must you ALWAYS talk?
 
 
 






Home isn’t where you’re from, 
 
it’s where you find light
 
 when all grows dark.
 
- Pierce Brown -








If you want to be unhappy,
 
 uncomfortable, and insecure,
 
 just spend your life
 
 trying to do something that is not right for you.
 
 It is just like trying to wear shoes that don’t fit.

- Joyce Meyer -









Night and day
 
 depend on each other
 
 to establish themselves. 
 
 - Thich Nhat Hanh -