Everybody has an inferiority complex when they step into a room... 

When I was young I had so many inferiority complexes.

 I had an inferiority complex because I didn't go to university...

because I didn't train.

 Then it gets tiring. 

And you get bored of it...

'Fuck it'

 is my guiding philosophy.

-  Helena Bonham Carter  -

 NITCH

Breathe before you take an action when you feel angry, confused, afraid, or tired.

 Feel your feelings first, let them move through your body, understand what's happening for you and then look at all the choices that are before you before taking an action.

- Barb Schmidt - 

 

We can say what we need to say. 

We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. 

We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or cruel when we speak our truths.

- Melody Beattie -

 

 

We might begin by scanning our body . . . 

 

and then asking, "What is happening?"

 

 We might also ask, "What wants my attention right now?" 

 

or, "What is asking for acceptance?” 

 

– Tara Brach -

Vous n'êtes pas responsable

 

 de la tête que vous avez… 

 

mais vous êtes responsable

 

 de la gueule que vous faites.

 

- Coluche - 

 

 

 

Zorg goed voor je lichaam. 

 

Het is de enige plek waar je kunt leven. 

 

 -Jim Rohn-

Waar liefde is, zijn er geen eisen, geen verwachtingen, geen afhankelijkheid.

 

 Ik eis niet dat je me gelukkig maakt; mijn geluk ligt niet in jou.

 

 Als je me zou verlaten, zou ik geen medelijden met mezelf hebben; ik geniet ontzettend veel van je gezelschap, maar ik hou me er niet aan vast. 

 

 -Anthony de Mello-

RIP Gyorgy Konrad

You take a number of small steps

 which you believe are right,

 thinking maybe tomorrow

 somebody will treat this

 as a dangerous provocation.

 And then you wait.

 If there is no reaction,

 you take another step:

 courage is only an accumulation of small steps.

-  Gyorgy Konrad. (2033 - 2019) -

Not one thing in the universe 

 

has a single inherent meaning. 

 

The meaning of a thing

 

 is in the mind of the perceiver 

 

and not in the object of perception.

 

- Mooji -

Beeld Carmen De Vos

NIET ALLES HOEFT COOL 

EN GREAT TE ZIJN

- Jens Dendoncker - 

Het najagen van perfectie 

 

is een vermomming 

 

van onzekerheid.

 

 -Paulo Coelho-

Vaak staan we toe dat roddelachtige, jaloerse, autoritaire, arrogante en middelmatige mensen, over het algemeen dus giftige mensen, onze meest intieme vriendengroep betreden.

We laten de verkeerde mensen binnen, de mensen die alles wat we zeggen en doen of wat we niet zeggen en niet doen voortdurend beoordelen.

 -Bernardo Stamateas-

Slaap met je ogen wijd open, 

droom met je handen. 

Droom hardop, 

zing totdat je stem wortels, stammen en takken schiet, 

en vogels en sterren.

 -Octavio Paz-

The ability to observe 

without evaluating 

is the highes form 

of intelligence 

- Krishnamurti - 

Self-care means pausing and paying attention. 

 

It’s asking yourself a lot of questions:

 

 How am I?

 

 What’s working? 

 

What’s not working? 

 

Why am I stressed, sad, mad, overwhelmed, feeling ashamed, etc.? 

 

What can I change? 

 

If I can’t change it, how can I cope?

 

- Tiny Buddha - 

 

 

 

Mindfulness Project

@LondonMindful

 

Try to be extra present in your bedtime routine today -

 

 brush your teeth, 

 

wash your face,

 

 read a book, 

 

but be present and enjoy it.

 

 See if it makes a difference on your sleep quality.

 

 

 

Perhaps the whole root of our trouble, the human trouble, is that we will sacrifice all the beauty of our lives, will imprison ourselves in totems, taboos, crosses, blood sacrifices, steeples, mosques, races, armies, flags, nations, in order to deny the fact of death, the only fact we have.

 It seems to me that one ought to rejoice in the fact of death...ought to decide, indeed, to earn one's death by confronting with passion the conundrum of life.

 One is responsible for life: It is the small beacon in that terrifying darkness from which we come and to which we shall return.

-  James Baldwin -

NITCH 

 

You will change the world

 just by being

 a warm, kindhearted human being.

But feelings can’t be ignored,

no matter how unjust 

or ungrateful they seem.

- Anne Frank -

Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day.

It’s about the choice to show up and be real.

The choice to be honest.

The choice to let our true selves be seen.

  - Brené Brown -

When people talk about you behind your back we usually get mad at that person, and think the other person telling us the story is doing us a favor. 

Think about this next time and ask yourself, "What might be the reason they're comfortable talking about you and not okay to say it straight to you?"

- Barb Schmidt - 

 

Often it is only when people suddenly feel they are losing their partner that they realize how much they love them. Then they cling on even tighter. But the more they grasp, the more the other person escapes them, and the more fragile the relationship becomes.

So often we want happiness, but the very way we pursue it is so clumsy and unskillful that it brings only more sorrow. Usually we assume we must grasp in order to have that something that will ensure our happiness. We ask ourselves: “How can we possibly enjoy anything if we cannot own it?” How often attachment is mistaken for love!

Even when the relationship is a good one, love can be spoiled by attachment with its insecurity, possessiveness, and pride; and then when love is gone, all you have left to show for it are the “souvenirs” of love, the scars of attachment.

- Rigpa Glimpse of the day - 

 

Zelfacceptatie 

is stoppen met energie verspillen 

aan vechten tegen jezelf. 

- Olaf Hoenson Wilson - 

We are all one. 

 

Only egos,

 

 beliefs, 

 

and fears 

 

separate us.

 

- Nikola Tesla -

How much does a man live, after all?

Does he live a thousand days, or one only?

For a week, or for several centuries?

How long does a man spend dying?

 What does it mean to say 'forever'?

- Pablo Neruda -

Midsummer moods, by the lake, Finland (by Milamai)

Please learn.

 Learn to observe, not memorise. 

We have contradiction only when we are not dealing with what is actually going on. 

Because we don’t know how to deal with what is going on, we invent the ideal, which is an escape.

 If you want to change what is going on, don’t have contradiction. 

Then you have the energy to deal with what is, instead of wasting energy in contradiction, having ideals and all the rest of it.

 I am violent, and my conditioning has been not to be violent, so I try to be non-violent.

 Whereas in actual fact, I am violent.

 So I am wasting my energy in trying to be non-violent. 

When I remove that, I have the energy to deal with what is - the energy to observe the fact of being angry. 

I won’t use the word ‘anger’ because the word is not the thing.

 Therefore there is only that reaction.

 The moment you name it, it becomes stronger.

 By associating through that word with the past, you are giving it strength.

 If you don’t name it, it soon dissipates.

 Eliminate contradictions altogether, and you are dealing only with what is actually going on.

- Jiddu Krishnamurti -

Where do I go when I sleep ?

Who dreams?

Who disappears
under those dreams
into the void?

Who returns?

Who wakes up?

Why is it always me?

Why not someone else?

Why does my history
also open its eyes
when I do?

I have to believe 

that caring for myself

 is not self indulgent.

 Caring for myself

 is an act of survival.

- Audre Lorde -

R.I.P. ROBERT FRANK

When people look at my pictures 

I want them to feel the way they do

 when they want to read a line of a poem twice.

-  Robert Frank -

NITCH

 

Harmen (6): Ik ben dat niet kwijt. Ik heb gewoon nog niet gezocht op de plek waar het ligt. Uit ons boek vol kinderspreuken: Omdenken is stom

We should be lifting each other up 

and cheering each other on, 

not trying to outshine one another.

 The sky would be awfully dark

 with just one star.

- Stacie -

”Every minute someone leaves this world behind.

We are all in “the line” without knowing it.

We never know how many people are before us.

We can not move to the back of the line.

We can not step out of the line.

We can not avoid the line.

So while we wait in line -

Make moments count.

Make priorities.

Make the time.

Make your gifts known.

Make a nobody feel like a somebody.

Make your voice heard.

Will Polston

Make the small things big.

Make someone smile.

Make the change.

Make love.

Make up.

Make peace.

Make sure to tell your people they are loved.

Make sure to have no regrets.

Make sure you are ready.”

 https://yogaforsuperheroes.tumblr.com/post/187615935312

I think the big mistake in schools is trying to teach children...

 

by using fear as the basic motivation.

 

 Fear of getting failing grades, 

 

fear of not staying with your class, etc.

 

 Interest can produce learning on a scale compared to fear 

 

as a nuclear explosion to a firecracker.

 

-  Stanley Kubrick -

 

NITCH

 

 

Simplement, je cultive la confiance.

 

 Confiance dans le mystère qui nous fait exister. 

 

Confiance dans la vie. 

 

Confiance dans la mort. 

La vie fut une belle surprise, la mort sera une belle surprise. 

 

De quel ordre ?

 

 Aucune idée ! 

 

Croire ne revient pas à savoir. 

 

Croire consiste plutôt à habiter l’ignorance avec confiance.

 - Journal d'un amour perdu - Eric-Emmanuel Schmitt -

Je trekt altijd datgene aan 

wat je wilt vermijden.

I am bent, but not broken.

 

 I am scarred, but not disfigured. 

 

I am sad, but not hopeless. 

 

I am tired, but not powerless.

 

 I am angry, but not bitter.

 

 I am depressed, but not giving up.

 

- Unknown -

Als je ingaat tegen de realiteit,

 verlies je 100% van de tijd.

- Byron Katie -

Merci Louise !

People are more likely to believe a quote

 

 if it is anonymous.

 

- Anonymous -

In everyday struggle maintain your cool and emotion.

 To heal a wound you need to stop touching it.

 Keeping yourself calm in times of stress

 will not only have immediate smoothing effects;

 it can also, over time,

 help you lead a healthier, happier life. 

- Dr Anil Kr Sinha -

Als je moe bent  komt dat niet omdat je te veel doet,  maar omdat je te weinig doet waar je energie van krijgt.