zaterdag 7 december 2019
What
people do and say is never about you and always a reflection of what is
happening inside of them and their perception of what's happening with
you and the outer world.
Healing is about feeling your feelings deeply, understanding what happened and then taking one step at a time putting the pieces of yourself back together.
Your healing NEVER depends
on someone else.
- Barb Schmidt -
Every minute someone leaves this world behind.
We are all in “the
line” without knowing it.
We never know how many people are before us.
We can not move to the back of the line.
We can not step out of the
line.
We can not avoid the line.
So while we wait in line:
Make moments count.
Make your gifts known.
Make your voice heard.
Make the small things big.
Make someone smile.
Make the change.
Make love.
Make sure to forgive people.
Make peace.
Make sure to tell your people they are loved.
Make sure to have no regrets.
Make sure you are happy.
(healingenergytools.com)
Je bent wat je verteert
Je darmen en lever spelen een
belangrijke rol bij je afweer. Je bent wat je verteert. Dag in dag uit
komt er van alles bij je binnen: eten en drinken maar ook gedachten en
emoties. Wanneer je iets goed verteert krijgt je lichaam
energie. Wanneer je iets niet kan verteren – bijvoorbeeld omdat
je stress, woede of boosheid ervaart – geeft het minder of helemaal
geen energie. Een tweede vorm van weerstand kan er ook voor zorgen dat
je uit balans raakt en je ziek voelt of niet lekker in je vel zit.
Verzet van binnen, doordat er iets gebeurt, iemand zegt of doet iets wat
een vervelend gevoel van binnen geeft. Kinderen pikken heel goed op wat er speelt in een gezin. Openheid is niet altijd eenvoudig. Wanneer een kind voelt dat er iets
speelt, dat er een geheim is, blokkeert de energie in het lichaam. De
energiestroom wordt als het ware vast gezet.
Openheid
Door
openheid, erkenning en begrip voor emoties, en wakker worden van
binnenuit op alle nivo’s: lichaam, denken, emoties en energie kun je
heel en dus gezond zijn. Iedereen ervaart wel eens boosheid, angst en
irritatie. Het is soms lastig om een emotie toe te staan. Wanneer boosheid
wordt onderdrukt, doe je jezelf geweld aan en krijgt het lichaam een
negatief signaal wat ervoor zorgt dat de lever niet goed functioneert en
groot kan worden. Wanneer een emotie langdurig wordt
onderdrukt, lijkt het alsof je een vulkaan bent, die op een gegeven
moment ontploft. En dat is niet gezond voor een lichaam.
So we sit, we concentrate on the breathing, nothing
else.
Then some thoughts may come, and any number of distractions:
things you talked about yesterday, movies you watched last week, a
conversation you just had, things you need to do tomorrow, a sudden
panic—did I switch off the gas in the kitchen this morning?
All of this
will come, and when it does, go back to the breathing.
This is the
slogan of instruction: just come back.
Every time we notice that we’ve
gotten distracted, we remember the instruction and we come back to the
breath.
- Dzongsar Jamyang Khyentse Rinpoche -
What
is our life but a dance of transient forms?
Isn’t everything always
changing?
Doesn’t everything we have done in the past seem like a dream
now?
The friends we grew up with, the childhood haunts,
those views and opinions
we once held with such single-minded passion:
We have left them all behind.
vrijdag 6 december 2019
There is nothing to stop you from being in touch with life in the present moment.
The question is, Do you have eyes that can see the sunset, feet that can touch the earth?…
Don’t think that happiness will be possible only when conditions around you become perfect.
Happiness lies in your own heart.
You only need to practice mindful breathing for a few seconds and you’ll be happy right away.
- Thich Nhat Hanh -
I learned from Whitman that the poem
is a temple – or a green field – a
place to enter,
and in which to feel.
Only in a secondary way is it an
intellectual thing
– an artifact, a moment of seemly and robust
wordiness –
wonderful as that part of it is.
I learned that the poem was
made not just to exist,
but to speak – to be company.
It was everything
that was needed,
when everything was needed.
- Mary Oliver -
There were people who went to sleep last night, poor
and rich and white and black, but they will never wake again.
And those
dead folks would give anything at all for just five minutes of this...
So you watch yourself about complaining.
What you're supposed to do when
you don't like a thing is change it.
If you can't change it, change the
way you think about it.
- Maya Angelou -
NITCH
donderdag 5 december 2019
WHERE CAN ONE ALWAYS FIND HAPPINESS?
See the dictionary under the letter ’h’ – only there will you find happiness always.
In life things are very mixed up. Day and night are
together, so are happiness and unhappiness. Life and death are together,
so is everything. Life is rich because of polar opposites. The very
idea that one would like to be happy forever is stupid. the very idea
will create only unhappiness and nothing else. You will become more and
more miserable because more and more you will be missing your
so-called eternal happiness. Your greed is too much.
Then who is the happy person? The happy person is not one who is always happy. The happy person is one who is happy even when there is unhappiness. Try to understand it. The happy per-son is one who understands life and accepts its polarities. He knows success is possible only because failure is also possible. So when failure comes he accepts it.
I remember one incident of my childhood. A great wrestler had come to my town. Everybody was very interested in wrestling, so the whole town had gathered. I have seen many people and many wrestlers in my life but he was really rare. He had something of Zen in him.
For ten days the wrestling continued, and every day he defeated a famous wrestler. Finally he was declared to be the winner. The day he was declared to be the winner he went around and touched the feet of all the ten persons whom he had defeated.
Everybody was puzzled about why he did it. I was a small child, I went to him and I asked him, ’Why did you do that? This is strange.’
He said, ’It is only because of them that I am victorious. It is only because of them. If they had not been defeated, if they had not allowed themselves to be defeated, I would not be victorious. So I owe it to them. Without them how could I be victorious? My victory depends on their defeat, my victory is not independent of them. So really I feel greatly thankful to them. There was only one possibility: either I was to be defeated or they were to be defeated. And they are good people, they accepted defeat.’
Things are interdependent: failure/success, happiness/unhappiness, summer/winter, youth/old age, beauty/ugliness – all are interdependent, they exist together. And the man who starts seeking one pole against the other pole is getting into unnecessary trouble. It is not possible, he is desiring the impossible; and he will get very frustrated.
Then what should the attitude be? When happiness comes, enjoy happiness; when unhappiness comes, enjoy unhappiness. When there is happiness, dance with it; when there is unhappiness, cry with it. That’s what I mean when I say ’Enjoy’.
Unhappiness is a must. If you can accept
unhappiness as smoothly as you welcome happiness, you will transcend
both. In that very acceptance is transcendence. Then unhappiness and
happiness will not make much difference to you, you will remain the
same. When there is sadness you will have a taste of it; and when there
is joy you will have a taste of it. And sometimes bitter things also
taste beautiful.
And sadness has something of depth in it which no happiness can ever have. Happiness has something shallow. Laughter always looks shallow, tears always look deep. If you want to be happy always you will become a shallow person, a superficial person. Sometimes it is good to fall into the depths, dark depths, dismal depths of sadness. Both are good. And one should be total in both.
Whatsoever happens, go totally into it. When crying, become the crying, and when dancing, become the dance. Then the ultimate happens to you. By and by you forget the distinction between what happiness is and what unhappiness is. You enjoy both! So by and by the distinction disappears.
And when the distinction has disappeared, there arises something which is eternally there, which remains always there. That is witnessing, that is SAKSHIN. And Sufis say that if you can become a witness of all that happens to you, you have arrived home.
Living with life is very hard. Mostly we do our best to stifle
life–to be tame or to be wanton. To be tranquilized or raging. Extremes
have the same effect; they insulate us from the intensity of life.
And extremes–whether of dullness or fury–successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies–unconscious strategies–to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too–sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life.
It takes courage to feel the feeling–and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable?
I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them.”
And extremes–whether of dullness or fury–successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies–unconscious strategies–to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too–sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life.
It takes courage to feel the feeling–and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable?
I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them.”
- Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? -
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