Once you realize there is life after mistakes, 

you gain a self-confidence that never goes away.

- Bob Schieffer -

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing:

 

 the last of the human freedoms—

 

to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, 

 

to choose one’s own way.

 

- Viktor E. Frankl -

It takes a long time

 

 to become young.

 

-  Pablo Picasso -

 

NITCH

 

 

I myself 

 

do not believe

 

 in explaining anything. 

 

-  Shel Silverstein -

Growth inherently requires us to tolerate discomfort. 

 

 To see a more conscious choice, we must become aware of the unconsciousness of our previous habit or tendency. 

 

This involves at least a moment of unflattering self-awareness which usually feels uncomfortable.

 

- Ken Wilber -

It’s not an easy journey,

 

 to get to a place where you forgive people. 

 

But it is such a powerful place, 

 

because it sets you free.

 

-Tyler Perry -

De belangrijkste regel in de zorg? 

Volgens mij dat je altijd eerst naar de mens kijkt en dan pas naar de regel.

#1 - Luc Pluijmen

 

- Omdenken.nl -

 

 

whyn lewis

One of the chief reasons we have so much anguish and difficulty in facing death is that we ignore the truth of impermanence.

In our minds, changes always equal loss and suffering. And if they come, we try to anesthetize ourselves as far as possible. We assume, stubbornly and unquestioningly, that permanence provides security and impermanence does not. But in fact impermanence is like some of the people we meet in life—difficult and disturbing at first, but on deeper acquaintance far friendlier and less unnerving than we could have imagined.

- Rigpa Glimpse of the day - 

 

Soms is het gras aan de overkant groener

 

omdat het nep is.

 

- Omdenken.nl - 

 

 

 

There is no growth without real feeling.

 

 Children not loved for who they are do not learn how to love themselves. 

 

Their growth is an exercise in pleasing others, not in expanding through experience. 

 

As adults, they must learn to nurture their own lost child.

- Marion Woodman -

Hoe je om moet gaan met pijnlijke emoties?

Je moet er niet mee OM gaan, je moet er IN gaan.

Ermee OM willen gaan betekent alleen maar dat je er UIT wilt.

Maar het is de poging om er UIT te komen die je er IN houdt.

De weg er IN is de weg er UIT.

- Erik van Zuydam - www.inzicht-nu.nl -

Life is not what you alone make it. 

 

Life is the input of everyone who touched your life

 

 and every experience that entered it.

 

 We are all part of one another.

 

- Yuri Kochiyama - 

 

 

 

Adyashanti - The Cause of Suffering

You make mistakes.

Mistakes don’t make you.

- Maxwell Maltz -

The power of kindness 

What I want is to open up. 

 

I want to know what's inside me. 

 

I want everybody to open up. 

 

I'm like an imbecile with a can opener in his hand, wondering where to begin...to open up the earth.

 

 I know that underneath the mess everything is marvelous. 

 

I'm sure of it.

 

-  Henry Miller -

 

NITCH

 

 

Je begint je leven in relatie. 

 

Eerst je moeder, dan je vader en zo gaat het verder.

 

 Je bent ik door de ogen van de ander.

 

 Je wordt ik door het wij.

 

- Else Marie van den Eerenbeemt -

Marriage is about becoming a team.

You're going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up.

But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, you'll always figure out a way to get through it.

The problem is not that there are problems. 

 

The problem is expecting otherwise

 

 and thinking that having problems

 

 is a problem. 

 

- Theodore Isaac Rubin -

The Bridge Between: Contextual Therapy and its Founder Ivan Boszormenyi-...

Some people think that to be strong is to never feel pain.

 In reality the strongest people are the ones who feel it, understand it, accept and learn from it.

- powerofpositivity.com -

You cannot change

 what you refuse to confront.

 

Al de dingen die je vergeten bent, 

 

roepen om hulp in je dromen.

 

- Elias Canetti - 

 

 

 

Arranmore Island, county Donegal

There are no small kindnesses.

 

 

 

Repeteergedicht

Sommige gedichten dienen elke dag herschreven.

 Gewoon hetzelfde gedicht elke dag opnieuw.

 Andere gedichten niet.

Wéér andere bleven beter ongeschreven.

 Dat zijn verreweg de meeste.

 Maar sommige gedichten dienen elke dag herschreven.

 Gewoon hetzelfde gedicht elke dag opnieuw.

Tot het onlosmakelijk met ons is verweven

en met de werkelijkheid tot waarheid is verdicht.

- Jules Deelder -

Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. 

Moving on doesn’t take a day.

 It takes a lot of little steps. 

- Unknown -

The one who plants trees, 

 

knowing that he will never sit in their shade, 

 

has at least started to understand the meaning of life.

 

- Rabindranath Tagore -

 

 

 

 

 

Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.

 

 Break the habit, talk about your joys.

- Rita Schiano -

You can age with joy

 

 and finish with grace.

 
- Dr. George Sweeting -

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. 

You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; but eventually it will all ooze through and stain your life. 

You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hand inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past - the memories - and make peace with them.

Iyanla Yanzant

You can’t always have a good day,

 but you can always face a bad day

 with a good attitude.

- Unknown -

Always go a little further into the water than you feel you're capable of being in.

 Go a little bit out of your depth and when you don't feel that your feet are quite touching the bottom, you're just about in the right place to do something exciting.

-  David Bowie -

NITCH

 

De oude kleren verbranden, de woordenkraam terzijde leggen.

 

 Niets meer verdedigen, het oude laten voor wat het is, ontdekken wat je nu bent.

Iemand zoeken die je langzaam maakt.


- Elias Canetti -

Dus, als ik verdrietig ben,

dan is het mijn plicht te stoppen,

 tijd te nemen,

naar mezelf te luisteren,

 mezelf te helen

 en de wanorde in mijn geest te ontwarren

 zodat ik weet wat ervoor gezorgd heeft

 dat ik mij zo voel.

- https://verkenjegeest.com -

“Je bent wat je zegt.”

 Dit is een uitspraak van Dr. Skowronski van Wake Forest University in North Carolina.

Hij onderzocht verschillende persoonlijkheidstypen en de toeschrijvingen die wij maken.

De resultaten waren duidelijk: de manier waarop we anderen omschrijven bepaalt hoe we zelf in elkaar zitten.

We zijn wat we zeggen.

We zijn alles wat we afleiden van en projecteren op degenen om ons heen.

Hoe we anderen omschrijven zegt veel over onszelf. 




 

If you are trying to become a more authentic person, it’s all about the way you act. 


Here are 10 things you will never see authentic people do:

1) They Don’t Let Fear Dictate Their Paths

Fear is a universal constant. Each and every one of us experiences what might be or what might not be, what we can and cannot change, and how the world will see us after every choice we make.
Because of these fears, you may be tempted to wait it out; see if the decision will ever get easier, wait for the best moment, prepare a little more before making the jump.
And while you’re waiting, life is passing you by. Because the world doesn’t care whether you jump or not; time isn’t going to stop ticking.
Authentic people know this truth. They know fear is all in the mind, and that their dreams and plans should be fought for consistently if they are ever to have any chance at success.

2) They Don’t Tell Others How to Live Their Lives

No one likes being told how to live their life. Successful people may fall into this trap where they think that everyone will want to hear what they have to say about everything, just because they are successful.
But this couldn’t be further from the truth. If your words sound more like preaching than teaching, no one will listen.
Authentic people don’t speak; they listen. They understand that everyone can teach them something, including you.

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3) They Don’t Complain

Problems are a part of life, but complaining is a choice. Complaining only makes things worse, dragging you down a path of negativity and regret.
Like any action, complaining takes energy. Instead of wasting energy complaining, likable people know that the only way to go when you hit rock bottom is up, and the only way to go back up is to fix your situation.
Stop wasting your breath about what went wrong or how things messed up. Start concentrating on improving. And when your friends are down, don’t go down with them—pull them back up.

4) They Don’t Hold On

The more fear you have, the tighter you hold on to your status quo. But holding on to your status quo means your world will never change or improve.
Authentic people inspire us by letting go of their fear and insecurity, and instead trusting themselves enough to know that they can get something better. And even if you fail, the act of trying is better than never trying at all.

5) They Don’t Try to Control Everything Around Them

You may be the CEO, owner, and founder of the greatest company in the world, but at the end of the day the only thing that you have complete control over is you. Inauthentic people try to impose themselves on others, and have made the decision that their concerns are greater than the concerns of those around them.
But control doesn’t last. You can’t force others under your control forever, which is why it’s a counterproductive solution.
Don’t control; instead, inspire people to move and work with you.

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6) They Don’t Dwell on the Past

The past is the past. What has happened can’t be undone, no matter how much you mourn over your mistakes. The only thing you can do is learn, move on, and let go.
All you have to do is focus. When an embarrassing or humiliating situation happens, just take a deep breath, learn from it, and move on. Think of your past as a training session for your future. It doesn’t define who you are—it defines where you will go.

7) They Don’t Put Blame on Others

Others may make mistakes, but how much of the fault really falls on them? Is any of it on your shoulders?
Did you give your employees enough training? Did you overwhelm your friends with too much to do? Were your expectations higher than their capabilities?
Learn that a mistake is just a mistake and nothing else, and move on.

8) They Don’t Overcompensate to Impress

Some people may buy fancy cars and big houses as soon as they reach success, showing everyone just how much money they have in the bank. Sure, you may impress people with your things, but you won’t impress them with you.
Authentic people create genuine relationships based on shared histories and fun memories, because these are the friendships that truly matter. Superficial ones built off the back off your latest sports car? The moment your car is gone, the friendship is gone, too.

9) They Don’t Interrupt Others

Listening is the best thing you can do for a person. Not only does it show that you are giving them the time and respect to hear their thoughts, but it also shows them that they matter to you and your input is important. And the more they respect you, the more this will count.
But when you interrupt them, all of this goes down the drain. It shows them that what they are saying doesn’t matter. It devalues them and makes them feel less of a person, and it makes it seem like you don’t care at all.

10) They Don’t Put Others Down

You may have more money, more education, more experience, and more accomplishments, but that doesn’t mean you have the right to put others down.
You are not a better person; you are just unique and different, and everyone else is equally unique.
Remember this: there is no better or worse when it comes to people. Just different. The moment you see shortcomings and flaws as differences that may add value to your own experience is the moment you’ll start seeing people for what they are—people.

A quick message from Lachlan Brown, the founder of Hack Spirit

 

 

Als je de weg kwijt bent,

kom je nog eens ergens.

 

- Omdenken.nl - 

The wisest one-word sentence?

Breathe…

- Terri Guillemets -

Don’t let negative and toxic people

 

 rent space in your head. 

 

Raise the rent and kick them out! 

- Robert Tew -

If speaking kindly to plants can help them grow, 

just imagine what speaking kindly to humans can do.

 

Bitterness

 

 is the coward's revenge 

 

on the world for having been hurt.

- Zora Neale Hurston -

Raoul De Keyser, Doel met krijtlijn, 1971

 

 

 Een streep

Ik trok een streep:
tot hier
nooit ga ik verder dan tot hier.

Toen ik verderging
trok ik een nieuwe streep
en nog een streep.

De zon scheen
overal zag ik mensen,
haastig en ernstig,
en iedereen trok een streep
iedereen ging verder.

Toon Tellegen - Gedichten 1977-1999', 2000 -

Ik ben niet wat mij is overkomen, 

ik ben wat ik verkies te worden. 

 - Carl Gustav Jung - 

Als ik één ding geleerd heb,

 is het wel:

als je iets wilt doen, doe het nu.

- Wim Distelmans -

 

 

When you think about it, we’re all terminal. 

 

No one gets out of here alive. 

 

Yet we all run around like we’re going to cheat death. 

 

We run out of joy staying married to jobs, people, and places we are no longer passionate about. 

 

We’ve forgotten how to be happy because we’ve made it so elusive.

 

 It only feels elusive because we’ve spent our time wrong. 

 

We’ve spent our time focusing on how we can create a living for ourselves instead of how to create a life for our hearts...

 

- Lindsay Wilson -

  Father and son. (1949 vs 2009)

 

 

There are things we don’t want to happen but have to accept; 

things we don’t want to know but have to learn;

 and people we can’t live without but have to let go.

- Jennifer Jareau -

Hoogteverschillen

Hoogteverschillen

Je voegt twee dingen samen die nog niet zijn samengevoegd.
En de wereld is veranderd.
De mensen hebben het op dat moment misschien niet in de gaten.
Maar dat doet er niet toe.
De wereld is hoe dan ook veranderd.

Je voegt twee mensen samen die nog niet zijn samengevoegd.
Dan wordt, op enig moment, vroeg of laat.
Om de één of andere reden,
één van de twee weggenomen.

En wat wordt weggenomen is groter dan de som van wat er eerst was. 

 

- Julian Barnes -

It’s okay to lose yourself for a little while.

 

 In books, in music, in art. 

 

Let yourself get lost.