When the heart is right,

 

 for and against 

 

are forgotten.

 

- Zhuangzi -

 

The three most important traits that were found to be present in happy, long-lasting marriages were:

1) The couple’s ability to feel empathy for one another.

2) Each person’s ability to control their own emotions and feelings during times of great stress. 

3) And the introduction of positive illusions. Positive illusions, according to Fisher, means you have the simple ability to overlook what you don’t like about someone to see the good in them. Focus on what you do like instead.

What’s important about Fisher’s research is that it keeps the responsibility of the relationship on both partners.

Whether you think your partner has wronged you or not depends on how you will handle yourself during the situation too. 


Relationships are a lot of work and without the efforts of both partners, they will fall apart quickly.


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True friendship

 

 resists time,

 

 distance

 

 and silence.

 

- Isabel Allende -

NOTHING BURNS LIKE THE COLD

- George R.R. Martin - 

All the ups and downs

 

 are grace in different wrappings, 

 

sent to refine consciousness. 

 

Say thanks to them all.

 

- Mooji -

TAKE WALKS 

Perfectionism holds us back. Here’s why | Charly Haversat

It is in the shelter of each other that people live.

 

 

Stop giving people power

to control your smile, 

your worth, 

and your attitude.

- Mandy Hale -

A plant is not thinking: “Tomorrow I will put a new leaf to the north and then next week when it rains I will grow a metre taller”. Its existence is just unfolding out of itself spontaneously, naturally, unplanned.

Similarly, your true life unfolds in the same way but you are unaware of it because you allow your mind to imagine fanciful ways of being and then pursue your projections. Like this, you began thinking and strategising your existence rather than simply experiencing your natural being.

We cannot breathe tomorrows breath today. Therefore, knowing this, leave your existence to existence and start enjoying your cosmic play. Best of all, don’t try to be anything at all. This is a secret few recognise.

- Mooji -

Do the things that scare you until nothing does. 

Do it every day. 

No matter how big, no matter how small. 

Talk to that cute person. 

Ask for that job. 

Do it until you gain momentum and life becomes exciting. 

Know that you are capable of so much more than you know.

- T. Wuggles -

One must also accept that one has ‘uncreative’ moments.

The more honestly one can accept that,

the quicker these moments will pass.

One must have the courage to call a halt,

to feel empty and discouraged.

- Etty Hillesum -

So each of us has a choice.

You have a choice.

 Your thoughts can make you and the world around you 

 suffer more or suffer less. 

- Thich Nhat Hanh -

For nothing is fixed...

 

the earth is always shifting, the light is always changing, the sea does not cease to grind down rock. 

 

Generations do not cease to be born, and we are responsible to them because we are the only witnesses they have.

 

 The sea rises, the light fails, lovers cling to each other and children cling to us. 

 

The moment we cease to hold each other, the moment we break faith with one another, the sea engulfs us and the light goes out.

 

-  James Baldwin -

 

NITCH

 

 

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