The thing I’ve learned is that often the pain
doesn’t come from your emotions at all; it comes from your resistance to
feeling them. It comes from the constant battle that begins the moment
you dip your toe in the water, and before you’ve even deciphered what
that sensation is, your mind has switched to flight mode and you’re
running for the hills. The pain comes from the unending list of
destructive ways you keep yourself numb. But eventually you must realise
that in blocking your true feelings you’re creating other forms of
unbearable pain. And that the only way out is to dive right in. When you
allow yourself to feel everything that you really feel, you discover
that it was never your emotions that were drowning you, it was your fear
of them. You find that not only can you swim, but you can float, and
when you stop fighting them, many of these feelings will float on by
with ease.