Is it possible really to love other people?
If I’m
lonely and in pain, everyone outside me is potential relief—I need them.
But can you really love what you need so badly? Isn’t a big part of
love caring more about what the other person needs?
How am I supposed to
subordinate my own overwhelming need to somebody else’s needs that I
can’t even feel directly? And yet if I can’t do this, I’m damned to
loneliness, which I definitely don’t want … so I’m back at trying to
overcome my selfishness for self-interested reasons.”
- David Foster Wallace, Consider the Lobster -
